Happy Tuesday guys! We’re after having a long weekend here in the US and it was just fab! 3 days of relaxing, sleeping in and catching up with the girls. It was just what the Doctor ordered!
If you read last Friday’s post you might know I’ve been in a bit of a negative funk lately. I feel like this past week and weekend really helped me snap the hell out of it.
I do always try to be positive and see the good or opportunity in even the crappiest situations, but you know sometimes you just can’t help it. Over the past week I’ve been thinking back to what I used to do 2 years ago when everything about my life was full of uncertainty and I was trying to not freak the hell out or feel sorry myself everyday. The more I thought about it, the more amazed I was with myself that I stopped doing some of these. So over the past few days I’ve picked them back up and I can honestly say my mood and mindset has completely changed. I’m more relaxed, less overwhelmed and just more positive (maybe the 3 day weekend helped here too!).
I know you might be thinking, ‘calm down there love it’s been like a week,’ but I’ve done all of these in the past and they helped so much then too. So today I thought I’d share what I do here on the blog because who knows, they might help 1 or 2…
1. Write Down the Good Things that Happen Every Single Day
2 years ago I read The Secret and after reading it I started writing down all of the good things that happened everyday. Too often we focus on the big picture and on the big things we want. When they don’t happen right away, I think we dwell on them way too much and start to get ourselves down. When you get like this it can be SO HARD to get out of it but really small things, little wins, happen everyday that are pushing us forward and getting that one step closer to where we want to be.
When I started writing everything down it was unbelievable how much my mindset shifted and how everything just feel into place. I became so much more positive and happier. I think it’s because when you focus on all of the good things no matter how big or small, you realise that…
“Everyday may not be good, but there’ good in everyday.”
I started doing this again last week after a chat with Niamh and I can already see a difference in my outlook. To be honest I have no idea why I stopped in the first place. I probably told myself I didn’t have time, but if I have time to be on Snapchat or Instagram in the evening, I have 2 minutes to spare to do this too.
Try it… I guarantee you’ll see a difference.
2. Stop Comparing Yourself to Others
I have spoken about this here on the blog so many times over the past few years but I can’t stress this enough – Comparing yourself to other people gets you nowhere. One quote I live by is:
“Don’t compare your inside to someone else’s outside.”
I’m am 100% guilty of this, but I try everyday not to compare myself to others. We live in this crazy social media world where everyone’s life looks amazing, but we have no idea what’s going on behind the scenes. So now I TRY to look to other people for inspiration but try to stay in my own lane, doing my thing. It’s a lot easier said than done but it makes me so much happier too.
We’re all guilty of following that one person who instantly puts you in a bad mood. Well I am anyway. If you do too, hitting unfollow will be one of the best things you do. If you follow someone who just has an unbelievable ability to rub you up the wrong way that’s bringing negativity into your life that you just don’t need.
Trust me… Hit unfollow and it will be one of the best things you do today (I’m hoping I’m not one of these people for you!!!).
4. Surround Yourself With Positive People
This may sound like an obvious one, but if you’re in a negative funk the best way to change your mood and mindset is to have positive people around you. Being around someone who is feeling the same way will only feed the negativity but positive people will help life your mood.
I’m lucky that I have a great gang of girls in New York who are super positive and are always there to drag me out of any negative funk that comes over me.
5. List Out All The Things You’re Grateful For
Another list! You’d be amazed at how writing out all the things you’re grateful for in your life will make you realise just have good you have it. Again, these can be big and small. I do this once month and find writing everything down really helps put things into perspective when I start to feel sorry for myself.
Photos by Claire Petersen
6. Treat Yo Self
Finally, if I’m having a crappy day or week I always find buying a little treat for myself can do the world of good. It doesn’t have to be anything major… Sometimes just a bunch or flowers or a small treat from can instantly lift my mood.
Some of these may sound really simple and small, but sometimes the smallest changes can bring about the biggest results. And I guess even if you’re just removing the smallest bit of negativity from your life isn’t that a good thing?
As always, a few quick words about my look before I go… I’m kinda obsessed with my mom jeans!! I’m still not sure if they actually suit me or look like a bag, but in my head I’m going with the former. I’m wearing them here with my trusty black blazer, a little cami, simple sandals and the love of my life – my birthday pressie to me from me – my Gucci Padlock bag. I’m thinking it would be the perfect look for dinner and drinks with gals.
Hope you’re having a fab week,